## THE 'J' WORD


So I often get along very well with male friends and I am not surprised about it as I did notice there were other women too out there like me. This article is mostly triggered by this incident that happened to me at work. I met this woman she was in my team but she was also another department manager's wife. As I was still in School I was trying to keep my distance from people and esp this because she always wanted to befriend me and tell me her problems in marriage, family etc. I was little taken aback to see after 3 years we are really good friends now. In the midst she quit the Company for another well paid job, got pregnant, bought some really high branded items as she was totally like one of the women from the above picture but the middle one mainly.

Until today she calls me and tells me her issues and there's probably not been a day when she has said anything positive about herself or her life. Therefore you might say this is expected but again not quite sure. I was thinking of  a Career change myself and have been talking to parents, brother, friends, colleagues at work who support me and what I did notice that she was the only one who spoke discouragingly about this job. I could be COMPLETELY wrong however I did notice that all her sentences had a 'BUT'.

My parents were little worried and so I wanted to see if she could talk to them as she knew them and my future job was going to very very similar to her job change at the time. She refused the request. I was alright when she said so since I can imagine her words were absolutely true - " I don't want to influence your parent's decision as they know you better and your life better". I totally get that however my dear colleague friend let's call her DCF (think deep) at work told me that she had begged  DCF to talk to her parents while she was making the move and I was simply doing the exact same thing.

Yes that's what am about to write down now...I was DEVASTATED..I was in SHOCK..I felt a deep realization go through me OMG so are my really close friends (hate to take the word) J of me? Don't they want you to grow despite the circumstances?

Why so..why now..and are you out there destroying someone's dreams?